Weathering the Storms
I’ve got a few friends and myself who are going through different things right now, I guess that is part of life. We weather the storms, the ups and downs. It is how we get through them that is the most important part. I’m a believer in lessons learned, not regrets made. Every phase in our lives we can learn from and grow as a human, no matter how hard that phase may be. We will end up on the other side. Sometimes with amazing memories and stories to look back on. Other times, we come out the other side gnarled, battered and bruised. We just think, “How the hell did I make it?!” but we will be on the other side. That in itself is an achievement.
Phases of Life
Every phase of life changes us for better or worse. There have been many times in my life where I have felt the light at the end of the tunnel is too far away, merely a tiny speck on the distant horizon. But always it is there however dim. I have nearly given up countless times and cursed the fan that sprays the proverbial in all directions seemingly one after the other. I haven’t always weathered the storms particularly well. I’ve misplaced my raincoat a few times but I have learned from each storm. The learning can be as little as finding a dry spot and waiting it out or it can be as big as putting on a coat and dancing in the rain.
The Rock and Hard Place
At the moment I am going through a storm, I am in the process of figuring out where to go from here and which direction to take my life, a cross road in life and it has left me very confused and drained. I have a couple of options I'm thinking about doing but they will both alter the course of my life. If I choose one option I am making myself happy. If I choose the other option I am letting everyone else down. I feel like I am in between a rock and a hard place. I can't please everyone, I know that but I still have to be mindful about this.
I'm no stranger to those decisions, however, I do wish we had a looking glass and could see each option panning out and choose based on that but unfortunately we don't have that technology yet. Life is an adventure though and I know whatever path I choose I will make the best of it, I have too much to lose if I don't. I suffer from depression and while a lot of the time it lies dormant, every now and then it bubbles over and erupts. The strength of the eruption depends on the situation or head space I am in. Sometimes it bubbles over for very little reason and disappears just as quickly and other time it sets in for the long haul, especially when making these kinds of decisions.
The Clouds will clear
I know that soon this storm will pass, just as my friends' storms will pass. Being there to listen and to support each other can be an incredible gift to someone. Like a water flowing down a river, time passes by us as well. No two moments are the same and each phase is a journey to treasure. Even if it seems endless and hard, learn your lessons and grow. You will be all the more stronger for it and who knows? Maybe your next phase will be your best one yet. I am hopeful my next phase will be my best one.
Mental health foundation - if you are worried about someone else
Ministry of health - what to look out for
Helpline's - this is a list of lots of different helpline's if you want to talk to someone anonymously
Let me know in the comments how you weather your storm. What helps you? We can all learn from each other in a community of support.